Why people date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be filled with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am sure typically though it is just the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos humanity has erected against affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to reduce the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sadly this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be compassion is vanished, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown distantly, our ordinary concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.